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How Do You Know If You're a Sex Addict?

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

Sex addiction is a growing problem in society. Professionals agree more and more people are struggling with sexual impulses that cause them to feel out of control. How do we know if we're a sex addict? To really gauge if you're having sex compulsively ask yourself this: Am I feeling good about my experience?

 
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Recognizing Your Privilege While Dating

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

Dating is a privilege and it's important to recognize your privilege in dating. How can we have better sex and how can we have better relationships? Dissecting the ins and outs of various forms of partnership brought up valid points about privilege, especially White, cisgender (people whose gender identity matches the sex that they were assigned at birth), and straight (heterosexual) privilege. We need to take responsibility for our privilege by owning it and understanding it so we can help communities with lesser privilege.

 
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Hookup Culture: Overthrowing the Patriarchy

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

Hookups are brief NSA (no strings attached) sexual encounters between people who are not romantically involved, and usually (I'm generalizing here) have no interest in dating each other. Hookup culture has become a widespread phenomenon (some specialists even label it a revolution). Dating is hard enough without integrating casual hookups. How do we navigate through this culture while keeping our integrity and feelings intact?