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How to Spot the Emotionally Unavailable

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

Knowing what you want out of a relationship is essential in achieving success with your partner. Whether it's purely sexual, deeply emotional, or somewhere in-between, once we've mapped out our wants and needs it becomes easy to spot these defining character qualities in potential lovers. But what if you know what you want, are sure of it, and are still having a hard time finding it?

 
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Seeking Pleasure? You're the Source

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

Loving someone else doesn't mean you should stop loving yourself. Masturbation is a beautiful and significant tool in the practice of self-love. Knowing how to touch yourself and give yourself an orgasm is the first stop on your way to Pleasuretown. Exploring your body and understanding how it works is an exciting journey. There are many advantages to masturbation whether you are single or in a relationship.

 
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Going Ghost: How To Deal With Rejection

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

Let's face it, we live in a world where people would rather fall off the face of the earth than confront their issues head on and be forced to deal with their feelings. Running away from an awkward situation seems easier than dealing with it, but does that make it true? No! Being ghosted sucks. It usually leaves us feeling confused, frustrated, and looking for answers. I think I can confidently say no one likes being ghosted. How can we make it suck less?